Questions After a Hook Up

The questions that I want to ask after our hook up:

How do you feel about having a blunt and honest conversation? Did you have fun? Was I any good? Why didn’t we use a condom? Where do you want to go from here? Do you want it to happen again? Pretend it never happened? If it happens again, do you want it to be the same way – a drunk sort of hook up thing? Could it be a sober hook up thing? Are you interested in more? Getting to know me? Being friends? Friends with benefits? What about anything more? Relationships? Do you do those? Are you emotionally available? Are you interested?

No pressure.

Let me answer my own questions for you: I really would love to be blunt and open, I’m sick of playing games and dancing around what we want or need – you don’t get what you want just willing it to happen. I had fun, you were surprisingly good, which led me to the “do you do this often” question. Did you even come? I don’t consider myself someone who does that sort of thing often. The worst you’re going to catch from me is a cold, which I apologize for, I’m pretty sick right now. I think you’re cute. I do want it to happen again, but I’ll let you dictate on what terms because I’m pretty open to all options. I’d rather not pretend it never happened because that’s childish and I’m not ashamed that it happened. If you don’t want it to happen again, that’s fine. If you want to continue pseudo anonymous hookups with me and not really get to know me, that’s kind of kinky but fine, just let me know. We’d absolutely have to use a condom every time. On the other hand, I would be happy to get to know you, be your friend, or your friend with benefits, and I don’t know you well enough to say anything beyond that.

I really don’t mean to come across as needy or as domineering by asking all of these questions, I just want to open, and perhaps, blunt.